Dating Life Series #12: Sexual Desires of a Woman

SEXUAL DESIRES OF A WOMAN

I’m sure a lot of us have had the conversation on how men get turned on easily, anytime anywhere. Meanwhile “women enjoy sex less often” and “have to be in the mood.” Well I’m here to tell you that’s all bullshit. When I am romantically involved with someone I am immensely attracted too, I tend to have this craving of wild sex. It lasts for as long as I am happy with my significant other. It's a feeling I get when my partner makes me feel great about myself in every aspect. When you have a partner that supports you in every milestone, makes you laugh, boosts your confidence, and grabs things for you while running their own errands, it makes them more sexually desirable than they already are. My craving of wild sex dies down once I feel like I'm having too much sex and not enjoying each other's company enough. Or we could just be having a bad/busy week. But I will never stop having sex completely unless I'm on my period or some other medical condition appears. Obviously everybody is different. So if by any chance you happen to have a low sex drive it can be because; your stress levels are high, your anxiety, depression, erectile dysfunction, or vaginal dryness. If any of these reasons above apply, take a trip to your doctor, they will be glad to help. 

   If you happen to be one of those talented women in bed, you should probably start thinking about whether or not you should be showcasing your skills in bed to those one night stand guys. Something I always indulged myself in doing was to treat a guy the way your average asshole treats women. (Disclaimer: NOT EVERY GUY IS A JERK, USE YOUR DISCRETION.) I would have sex with these men and ghost them immediately once they showed me anything that considers them not worth my time.  Men often objectify us and look at us as disposables. I like to do the same. It makes me feel like I did a good deed for the community of women. Second, it reminds them and me that women are just as powerful, maybe even more powerful than men. We want sex without our emotions involved too. 

   Not just any guy can get the full Michelle experience in bed though. As said in one of my previous posts, certain guys you hook up with are fantasy guys and not the ideal guy you want a relationship with. So for the fantasy guys you want to keep your skills in bed limited. Versus somebody you can see yourself settling down with, you get a little more spontaneous and kinky. In some situations, it can be the other way around because you want to save all your skills for spending the rest of your life with Mr. Forever. But you also want to give Mr. Fantasy the time of his life. The choice is yours but for me I pick option #1. I don't want Mr. Fantasy to get attached and expect that Michelle every night or ever again. I definitely don't want him blowing up my phone either. It has happened before. Establishing boundaries is very important while dating. If for any reason one night stand guy ends up being the guy you consistently kick it with, then that’s a different story. You use your judgment in that situation. 

   There’s a couple things I expect from a man I am intimately involved with. One thing I crave from time to time is some good oral sex. Spit on it, lick it, kiss it, slob on it. That’s my favorite. Treat me like your favorite ice cream. Most of the time my clit becomes too sensitive because it tickles and feels good at the same time so I have to end it sooner than I want too. Another one of my favorite things is when a guy takes his time to arouse me. He kisses me all over my body. Rubs his hands over me. Basically any physical touch meant to sexually arouse me. I always wanted to try the ice cube being slid across my body. Along with dripping hot candle wax on me. 50 Shades of Grey much? Yes. But you got to admit, the sex game changed when that movie came out. Of course there were people doing what they were doing already but not as much as there is now. It's more glorified, rather than keeping your sexual fantasies to yourself. 

   If you don’t know, I have a post on "Random places I've had sex" and I would love to add more places to that post. That is for sure one of my fantasies. Things like having sex on the beach, being bent over on the roof to the entire NYC skyline, or even having sex in a airplane bathroom. I feel like those three locations are TOP TIER for wanting to have adventurous sex. I also wrote in that post about other fantasies of mine I would like to make happen. 

   Rough sex is another one of my favored desires. I like to be slapped and choked during sex, not extremely hard though. At that point that's considered domestic violence. I've only been tied up with handcuffs once. I've never been tied up to a bed or anything else. I would totally enjoy that. I feel like guys need to learn to take more control in bed. It’s very appealing when a guy takes control. Independent women already do everything for themselves, I want to be swept up off my feet sometimes too. Lift me up and put my pussy on your face, slob all over it whilst carrying me with your manly strength. I want to wake up to some head too. Wake me up at 4AM with your tongue on my clit. Us women do everything men want in bed but I have yet to find a guy that reciprocates the same energy. Suck on my toes, kiss my neck, put my finger in your mouth, ask me to spit in your mouth, I’m into shit like that but I just want a guy to take control. I want a guy to focus on pleasing me for once rather than just having sex and being done, I want a guy to take his time with me. You get the best results when you do that. If you are a man reading this, take my advice please. 

   

   This is a big deal. I've always wanted a girlfriend. The problem is I don't want my husband to have a favorite. Why did I say husband instead of boyfriend? Involving a third person in a relationship is more appropriate for a healthy stable relationship where it's guaranteed you will not be separating or divorcing. It can also be ideal for a non marital relationship depending how comfortable you both are in that situation. Some people might look at it as; well if I'm going to enter this throuple I'd prefer it to be with a guy I don't plan on being with forever so I don't have to worry as much, or get hurt and disappointed. While others may think; well I've been with this guy for eight years. He's found a way to make things work with me no matter what, and showed me the true definition of for better or for worse. Why not spice things up a bit with another girlfriend? I would prefer the girlfriend for myself but that's selfish. I can share but my fear is my boyfriend/husband not being interested in me anymore. It sucks to think that way, but we must always prepare for the worst. In order for adding a third to be considered, the level of trust has to be unquestionable. The level of loyalty has to be through the roof. It's hard to be able to do that with just anybody. You can know a person for ten years, and on the eleventh year you wake up with a different person. It reminds me of the most cliché situation you see in movies where a family with younger kids hires a nanny in her 20's and the husband has an affair with the nanny. It’s a very traumatizing situation so as I always say, use your judgement in moments like that. 

 

The sexual desires of a woman are very important to educate yourself on for both men and women. Especially if you just recently started having sex. You want to be able to know what pleases a women, you want to be able to show them things in bed they’ve never experienced before. I think that I covered every aspect in this topic because girllllll, It took me almost a month to really focus on this post. There was too many things randomly popping up in my head at work, in the shower, anywhere. On top of balancing a new lifestyle, we made it through. I did not give up. I hope you enjoyed this post and if you have any comments, questions or anything you feel like I missed on this topic, feel free to leave a comment below! Thank you!!