Dating Life Series #10: Random Places I’ve had Sex

 Random Places I’ve had sex

This may be personal but my blog does get wild sometimes. This is one of those wild posts. I hope to inspire and possibly spice up any relationships. Add a little pizazz to the things that you read online. I want you to be able to experience the real transparency in a women’s dating life from my perspective. I do want to remind everyone that this is a safe space and I don’t judge. I expect the same on my website. 

Don’t worry I am aware that everyone has their own opinion but if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all. Thank you!

   Is having sex in public a good thing? Not really but life is all about taking risks. Obviously in every situation you have to outweigh the good, and the bad, observe your surroundings, maybe go back and forth a bit, then decide whether you want to do it or not. I personally like being spontaneous. Does that mean I have sex every chance I get at a random place? No. But I’ve only ever craved the spontaneity with people I enjoyed and spent the most time with intimately. I have to be in the mood or it’s a situation/location where it’s a once in a lifetime opportunity. 

 Something so cliché I have yet to do that’s on my bucket list is to have sex on a balcony with a nice view. I kind of feel like there’s a possibility I will punk out because that’s scary and way too noticeable. Although, my dream place to have sex would be on a nice yacht or boat somewhere in the middle of the most beautiful scenic body of water in the entire world. Very fairytale-ish? Yes. But you can’t lie doesn’t that sound amazing? I’m actually scared of big bodies of water, one of my fears is drowning in the ocean. But like I said life is all about taking risks. For gorgeous views and a crazy experience? Absolutely. Especially sex with my favorite person? A major plus. 

1.  Car Sex - Waterfront Parking Lot

Rating: ★★★★★

I’ve had car sex a few times with the same person. Three different times with three different people. This specific car sex though was my favorite. Location was worthy too. It was a good day. We hung out with the fam, drove to the waterfront, went for a three minute walk and turned around because it was cold. Proceeded to smoke some weed, then do the nasty. There was some hiccups of course. I kept seeing people walk by and I would get paranoid. I delayed us by some minutes but we did it. I came so much from this car sex it was insane. There was two big wet spots on his backseats. This man knew what he was doing. It’s not the first time we had sex so I knew it was going to be good sex generally but I wasn’t expecting to comfortably enjoy it and make a mess. I do want to add that sometimes car sex can be uncomfortable, surprisingly this one was not. It was a sweaty but great time. I remember looking out the window and seeing the car shake, that was funny. So my rating is based on location, satisfaction, and comfortability. I’m giving it five stars because I was satisfied, comfortable, and the location was slightly secluded. Location could always be better but it got the job done. Maybe we shall try a nicer waterfront next time I decide I want to have car sex again. 

2. The Cemetery

Rating: ★★★★

This was the first time I had sex elsewhere that wasn’t a bedroom. I was dating my Ex who lived in City Island. I think that we were at Orchard Beach or a park somewhere nearby City Island hanging out but we had towels so I’m guessing the beach. If you know me you know I have horrible memory for certain things. It’s daytime by the way. We were on our way back to his place and I don’t remember who initiated the having sex outside mission. But he and I end up at this cemetery scouting for a location to place the towel. We found this empty spot between a tree and a tombstone. Mind you, it’s a cemetery obviously and there’s tombstones everywhere. Along with one of those small houses that is most likely used as an office or to hold supplies. I was skeptical about this house at first, I didn’t want to get kicked out or arrested. We determined it looked empty so we said fuck it. Took those extra peeks around before we got comfortable. Long story short, we had sex on that towel, next to a couple hundred dead bodies. Thousands even. Nobody caught us. I can’t tell you if anybody saw but thank god I didn’t lock eyes with a bystander. I would’ve immediately got up, ran, and hid in my room for the rest of eternity. Was the sex good? Yes. I feel like the risk made the sex better but I did not cum. It’s crazy because he was one of the few ex’s I had that did a great job on pleasing me. I think it’s because I was nervous AF. I gave this experience four stars because it’s a cemetery, that’s creepy. 

3. Floors

Rating: ★★★

 With a different EX, we had a lot of sex. There was a time where we wanted to have sex without his parents knowing (they were always home by the time we got out of school) so we would go to the bathroom in his basement. We would either have shower sex or bathroom floor sex. But this one time, his parents weren’t home. We totally took advantage of that situation. We used to watch TV in the living room a lot so I feel like that’s what we were doing and there we were having sex on his living room floor. It had a huge area rug don’t worry we wasn’t on bare wood floors. Generally we had good sex, I don’t remember him being one of those guys that made me cum often.  I also remember it being one of those close call moments and that’s why I chose to write about it. Luckily the state of NJ considers abortion legal. Plan B also exists, but we’re in a different time now sadly. Not all the states have the luxury of being able to purchase a plan B or get an abortion if necessary. So I am thankful for that strong pull out game back then. I gave it three stars because location was not the greatest, almost got pregnant, and I didn’t cum. 

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